http://www.inquirer.net/vdo/player.php?vid=2236&pageID=1

Defeating Infidelity

By Deni Rose M. Afinidad

INFIDELITY is the prime killer of relationships, the British Broadcasting Co. stressed in its recent documentary, Secrets of the Sexes.

To save the family from the claws of infidelity, Human Life International Asia is holding a roving seminar that aims to promote an “affair-proof” relationship between couples.

HLI Asia is the Asian branch of the global family of HLI, a non-profit educational organization dedicated to promote and protect the sanctity of life and the dignity of the family.

“Building a strong family is the key to progress,” Dr. Edna Garayblas Monzon, president of University of Santo Tomas’ Bioethics department, told around 300 delegates from 13 countries in the recently held “Infidelities and other serious stories” convention in Cebu City.

“The love between the husband and wife serve as a dress rehearsal for our children.”

Through studying and counseling men who have committed adultery, Dr. Orestes Monzon, HLI Asia’s executive director, has found several reasons why men cheat their wives or girlfriends. According to him, men get turned off by their female partner’s bashing, abrasive words, pessimism, indolence, smoking, nagging, commandeering attitude, impatience, repeated fault-finding, unwillingness to listen, and/or frequent excuses to avoid having sex.

“Husbands already wrestle with a lot of problems and stress at work. And if the wives are still to depend on their husbands to take care of their domestic problems, the male spouse becomes overburdened. As a result, he might easily fall for another woman whom he thinks could ease his dilemmas,” explained Monzon.

Other related causes of infidelity, as Monzon has pointed out, are the following: ego-trip (men’s ego is fragile; if they do not get enough attention or kindness at home, they are more likely to find these from someone else); need to recapture a fleeting youth (especially experienced by a spouse in mid-life crisis, the husband or wife takes a young lover to feel young); struggle with sexual deprivation or dysfunction; yearning for romance, excitement, or acceptance; to escape from life’s pressures (so many problems in the office, so sex after work to lessen stress); boredom (men want to appear adventurous); losing control of the situation; revenge for a spouse who cheated first; financial dependence on the paramour; and/or the spouse was never in love or has fallen out of love with his or her partner.

Monzon, in addition, described the common traits of “the other woman” as follows: the husband’s co-worker or secretary; the wife’s close friend; a woman who looks for and loves sex; a married woman not looking for commitment, only sex; prostitutes; the husband’s ex-girlfriend; a woman who shares a common interest with the husband; women who are seemingly caring and affectionate to the husband; unhappily married women; and women who listen and console men in their problems.

Monzon has also found in his research that infidelity happens when the spouse has already completed his or her higher studies; when he or she travels; when the spouse has enough money to support another lover; during substance abuse; when the partner is busy with work and there is nobody to take care of the other spouse; when the wife is pregnant; and when the spouse is bored and is looking for someone to exhaust his or her untapped energy.

“Sixty percent of infidelity happen in the workplace,” divulged Ed Sorreta, a businessman who confessed to have engaged in extra-marital affiliation. “You continue to be officemates so it’s hard to end an affair.”

To know if the other partner is cheating his or her mate, Monzon advised to look for the following subtle signs: the suspected spouse always displays uneasiness; there is a break in the routine of the relationship; the spouse has frequent late night dinner meetings; the partner becomes unwilling to make plans (because he or she already has plans with the other lover); the suspected spouse suddenly boosts his or her physical fitness (he or she starts to wear perfume or go to the gym); he or she comes home late or always texts or calls his or her mate that he or she will be late; he or she suddenly gives his or her spouse expensive presents; unexplained restaurant or hotel receipts in his or her wallet; he or she is always with his or her peers; and he or she travels frequently.

“A spouse in an unlawful relationship with another person usually becomes verbally abusive,” said Monzon.

“[Because] it is easy to find problems in your spouse when you have affairs,” explained Sorreta.

Also, Monzon pointed out that some men in an extramarital relationship tend to put off their wedding ring, or vice versa.

“The wedding ring on a man’s hand attracts some women who believe that wedded men are more ‘experienced,’” said Monzon.

To keep their husbands hooked on them, Monzon has advised “legal” wives or girlfriends to be affirming and make their male partners feel important; seek for solutions than enlarging problems or finding fault; take care of one’s shape and health; develop other senses to avoid smoking; build up a sense of humor; share with the husband’s problems; and be presentable.

“Respect the man of the house as the man of the house will respect the lady of the house,” said Monzon. “Instead of asking too many questions or asking him where he has gone, ask ‘feeling’ questions, say, ‘How’s your day?’ or ‘Are you tired? Do you want me to pamper you?’”

Furthermore, Garayblas Monzon suggested that it could be better if women are to be their husbands’ best friend; to enjoy spontaneous sex with their hubbies even when they are pregnant; to keep their sex life interesting and exciting; to develop emotional attraction with their better half; to trust their husbands; and to plan, go to the gym or do sports with their hubbies.

Just like any addiction, retreating from marital disloyalty also has withdrawal effects, said Sorreta.

To end an affair Sorreta recommended avoiding ceremonial endings with the lover, like writing him or her a letter that he or she can use to blackmail you.

Furthermore, he advised to remove all access, availability, and contact with the mistress.

“Nobody breaks up as friends,” emphasized Sorreta. “Burn your bridge. If you break up as friends, when you have problems, you will return to her. But if there’s an emotional barrier, you’ll hesitate going back to her.”

If one has a child with the lover, Sorreta advised to take care of the child at least financially.

“Abortion is not an option. At least, leave a legacy to the child that you chose life,” he said.

He likewise encouraged the erring spouse to not face the consequences of infidelity all by him or herself. He or she should join a support group or seek for professional advice.

For a victim of infidelity, Sorreta has observed that “forgiveness is easy; but healing is the long and hard part.”

To encourage healing, he suggested temporary space between the unfaithful spouse and his or her better half.

“Physical separation with the erring spouse after an affair means you cannot tolerate his or her affair, but not dissolution of marriage,” he said.

Finally, Sorreta advised couples separated by infidelity to try to rebuild their marriage.

“When you hurt a marriage, despite years of being together, you can go back to zero,” he enthused. “The key there is not to forgive and forget, but to forgive and remember each other’s goodness… Some pain will remain for the rest of your life. But forgiveness and love are not feelings. They are choices you live.”

For Marlon Ramirez, a long-time married man with five kids, there is always a way to avoid illegitimate relationships.

“We are not perfect, but we are whole,” Ramirez assumed. “Our sexuality is whole… The more I serve my wife and children, the more I experience my sexuality… The real macho is not the one who could grab as many women as he could, but one who loves and respects, for it is through loving and respecting that we become truly human.”

I  WANT. 

Thank goodness for musicovery.com!

When the stresses of real life start rearing its ugly head at me, I zone out and try to imbibe these lyrics....


I want to get high, so high
I want to get high, so high
I want to get high, so high
I want to get high, so high

Well it’s the funk elastic
The blunt I twist it
The slammer five
Buddha fine
Funk on your desk, es’
Oh what you missed this
You got to bear witness
Catch a ho’, and another ho’
Merry christmas
Yes I smoke shit
Straight off the roach clip
I roll shit
Fold the blunt
At once
To approach it
Forward motion
Make you sway like the ocean
The herb is more than just a powerful potion
What’s the commotion
Yo I’m not joking around, people learnin’
’bout what they’re smoking
My oven’s on high when I roast the quayo
Tell bill clinton to go and inhale
Exhale
Now you the phunk of the thai’
When I feel the effects

I want to get high, so high
I want to get high, so high
I want to get high, so high
I want to get high, so high


.....wish i could do this for real!

Link: http://vicissitude-decidido.blogspot.com/2008/12/world-is-fucked-up.ht..



Mayor Nasser Pangandaman, Jr., Mayor of Masiu City, Lanao del Sur will surely have his day of reckoning.


He must have smoked the grass from the golf course.


One word.... KARMA!

well....he's unique....and kinda viral.....anyway....google him and you'll find out. i certainly did.

got this from sparty...

                          UP Professors' Quotable Quotes

1. "The aim of policy making is to invoke action! Because action
speaks louder > than words! You do not just say I love you. You say:
If you love me, enter me! " -Dr. Alfonso Pacquing

2. "Class, next week na lang ung result sa exam nyo. I am having a
hard time > checking it. I will seek first the divine guidance on what
to do about it. > Class don't worry about your grade. Let me worry
about it." Sir de jesus,envi sci 1

3. (valentines day)"Ano ba yan? Students ba kayo ng UP? Bakit ang
bababa ng scores niyo? > Siguro wala kayong date ngayong valentines
kaya ganito kayo. Losers!!! > When i was your age i had a
date. Hindi ba naapektuhan ng UP FAIR > euphoria ng grades niyo?
Parang di kayo masaya..." (sabay matching tapon ng quizzes sa sahig) >
"I won't record this. Go find a date." (sabay walk out.) -Sir
Doliente,BA.

4. Ma'am: Many people believe that we, psychology graduates can read
minds... > (silence) Actually, we can.> Class: Weh.. Sample.. > Ma'am:
Right now, you think that I'm bluffin -Ma'am Chei Billedo, Psych

5. "I don't give surprise long exams. all exams are announced.
Halimbawa, > Class, mageexam tayo, NGAYON NA!" -Ma'am Chei

6. "The human body is 70% water. Kaya wala kayong kasaysayan lahat. Pag may
kaaway ka, sabihin mo sa kanya, TUBIG KA LANG!!! -Dr. Recio

7. "Oo, nagpapaulan ako ng uno... baket? aanhin ko ba nun? di naman
ako yayaman dun." -Sir Atoy Navarro, histo I

8. (commenting on a thesis of a senior student) 'Yang thesis mo? ..
Mamamatay ka!! Mamamatay ka!!' - Dr. llanes, UPM

9. "Nasa bandang gilid ang fallopian tube. Kaya kung gusto niyong
magka-anak > ng asawa niyo, dapat nakatagilid kayo habang gumagawa."
-Ma'am Meggie, Zoo 10

10. "Last sem was the first time that I gave a grade of 5, and it felt
good!!!" - Prof Goldie, Comm II, circa 1998, first day of class

nung freshie ako: atheist ako, pero pag nasa bahay, nagro rosary kami
ng Nanay ko, eh kung magalit sa kin yun. --Socio 11 Prof

"you do not fall in love; you rise in love. That's how you love
rationally." --Dr. FG david

"Try to die! Try to die!" - sir billones, on a student who is
palpitating while taking the exam. He claims
that after incident refreshed na lagi yung estudyante. If I know, pag
naaalala ng estudyanteng yun yung moment na yun kaya siya laging
refreshed, kasi natatawa siya pag naaalala niya iyon.

"Anong molars? You don't say molars because it is an adjective! Do you
say beautifuls?" - ma'am ilao, to a student who said "n molars"

"Kahit magpakamatay ka pa di mo masasagot yang problem> set na yan
dahil pang-157 (phy chem II) yan!" - ibid

"Do not memorize! Analyze!" - doc nic, advising us, her students never
to memorize reaction mechanisms

"Kaya nga ideal eh, hindi siya nangyayari sa totoong buhay. Pero an
approximation is good enough" - sir> engle, on ideal and real systems

"Don't take the BAR and yourselves too seriously. baka mabalitaan
nalang namin na nag-o-oral summation kayo sa
Luneta. O lumulutang-lutang sa PasigRiver. Enjoy yourselves, relax,
and read at least 15 hours a day. Nakakabobo ang sobrang tulog. MAg
relax ka habang nagbabasa. Magrelax habang nagmi-memorize. "

"Pag nananaba ka sa oras ng exams, ibig sabihin di ka papasa."

"Oh the BAR isn't scary. It's terrifying. It might even kill you."

and the unforgettable: "Wow. Rape-able." and "Stand up Miss ___ so
that I might see the contours of your body." alternately encouraging
and disheartening ang drama nitong prof na'to.

Ito naman from our Prof. Ancient: "Mga engineers? Nako. Bihira pumapasa sa BAR."

"UP ka nag-undergrad? Bright ka ba?"

"Sa mga taga-UP lang ako bilib eh. Pagpasok nila sa lawschool, hindi
sila disoriented. Bilib ako sa study habits
na meron yang mga batang yan. Some of them look like they eat kamote
thrice a day, pero ang utak, di ututin!"> (ewan ko kung matutuwa ako
dito o hindi)

sabi ng aming dean who is 80 yrs old, "class your laughing now, but i
will predecease you all"

prof: O, meron na bang nakapunta sa inyong XXX
class: (tahimik)
prof: (medyo nadisappoint) Ano?! Puro na lang ba kayo aral?
Aral na lang kayo ng aral, ha? Wala na kayong napupuntahan kakaaral niyo!

Same prof: Nakita niyo na ba ang Hooverdam?
class: (tahimik uli)
prof: Hehehehe, ang yabang ko talaga!

Second day of classes
Same Prof: (kinuha ang box ng colored chalks) Ano ba naman ito...
(tapos iniitsa sa lamesa yung mga dark colored chalks)
class: (tahimik na nagmamasid)
Prof: Class, sulatan niyo ang manufacturer ng chalk na ito, at
sabihing tanggalin na ang mga walang kwentang kulay na ito... brown,
green, violet. hindi makikita ito sa board. Convince them
class: (tahimik at gulat)

Prof: and .25 incentive sa final grade niyo!

terror prof after an exam (last day na din ng class..): ok class.. see
you next sem!

"Ateneo is not a university, it's a diploma mill. Bakit ba nakangiti
pa mga estudyante dyan kapag lalabas sila ng gate nila, hindi ba nila
nalalaman ang nami-miss nila sa edukasyon?"

"The more wisdom you obtain, the more you shut your mouth. This is
because the more that you learn, the more you realize that there are
even more things that you do not know. The true mark of an idiot is a
loudmouth, the true mark of a wise man is humility" --Paraphrased
galing kay PI100. Puta best prof sa CAL.

"IE? Di naman engineering yun e" -Thesis adviser
Classmate: Ma'am, pwede po bang next week na kami mag report?
Ma'am: Alam mo, God is good. And I am God. So yes, pwede next week.

galing kay sir U eliserio during creative writing class... "try
everything once except incest"

and one day pumasok ng room, galit na galit. hinagis ang bag sa table,
nagwawala sa harap ng room dahil hindi daw
nasagot ng previous class niya ang question niya. kaya dapat daw
masagot namin, ang makasagot may plus points. kapag walang makasagot,
lagot kami. ang tanong.... "class, sinong lalaking artista dun sa TV
show na wonder years"?

"Mamatay na mangopya..."
saka "Ang hindi maka-100, bobo!".

"im gay. so gay i could show you my penis because it is but an
accessory to my body" -jean navera, spcm1

FIRST DAY OF CLASSES: "Kung may boyfriend o girlfriend kayo na hindi
taga-UP, hiwalayan niyo na agad. Walang pupuntahan yan. Hindi kayo
magkaka-intindihan. Tapos yung mga anak niyo, magiging bobo. Gusto
niyo ba yun?"

ANOTHER PROF: "Hoy girls, wag kayong kukuha ng boyfriend dito sa UP.
Pare-parehas tayong mahirap dito. Kumuha kayo ng mayaman. 80% of the
child's intelligence comes from the Mother naman eh. Kayo guys, wag
kayo kukuha ng bobong babae. Kahit matalino kayo, magiging bobo anak
niyo."

"Class, Chinatownis not in China. And Ateneo de Manila University is
not... a university."

STUDENT: Sir, pwede po magpa-sit in yung friends ko?
PROF: From what school are they?
STUDENT: St. Scho po.
PROF: "Go ahead. So they'll realize what they're missing. St. Scho,
St. Scho... eskwelahan na ba yun sa inyo?!"

sa PHILO: "I THINK THEREFORE I AM FROM UP!"

"Class, kaya mahal ang bayad sa mga professors sa ibang school kasi
ang bobobo ng mga estudyante dun. Dyuskoh, I used to teach there... at
lumuluha talaga ako ng dugo bago maintindihan ng mga students yung
sinasabi ko. Ang mahal nga ng bayad, magkakasakit ka naman sa panga
kakaulit ng lessons! Wag na lang! Dito na ko sa UP, at least
nagkakaintindihan tayo. Diba?"

Dahil kami ang mga huling estudyante ni Dr.David at mahal na mahal
namin siya, nag-compile kami dati ng mga quotable quotes mula sa
kanya. Ito ang ilan:

"Meanings we find are the meanings we make."

"WHAT YOU LEARN IN UP IS TO GO ON AND NEVER GIVE UP. THAT IF THERE BE
ONE PERSON LEFT STANDING, LET IT BE ME. LET ATENEO FALL FIRST BEFORE
UP..."

"The measure of a man is how many doors he has opened to other people,
especially to those he doesn't know."

"To be born is to die. In between they grow and multiply like flies.
6.2 billion people in the world. Kadiri, ano?"

"Why not life? Why call it soul? Call a spade a spade."

"Earth is the only heaven we can know."

"religion is a successful economic institution"

"Do not live long enough to be worthless."

"Domestication of the human male is one of the greatest achievement of
the human race."

"I do not know many. I only know enough to teach my classes."

"We do not accept anyone here in class except for those who are
members of a certain minority group. For example, gays are part of a
minority group, bakla ka ba? If you admit to this class that you are
gay, then I'll admit you"

Prof "hail to the chair", to a guy student na nagpre-prerog

"kapatid ng sinungaling ang magnanakaw. ergo, gma's marriage to mike
arroyo is null and void ab initio."
consti law class, 1st sem, AY 2005-06

"running for summa ka? mapapagod ka lang."

"Bilib ka kay Alan Peter Cayetano? E ambaba ng grades n'un e!"

"Si Miriam, crush ko 'yun dati. Muntikan na maging kami, kaso nasiraan
ng ulo, kaya 'yun, iba ang asawa ko."

"Class, gusto ko kayong i-train na mag-English, so when you're here in
class, magsalita kayo ng English! Ako lang ang exempted dahil matanda
na ako at ako ang teacher!"

Ma'am Vitriolo (2nd to the last meeting) Okay class, next week, we
start the lecture proper.

more of Ma'am Ilao "Hindi mahirap makakuha ng UNO sa class ko. yung
gumradweeeyt last year na Magna Cum Laude ng Biochem, uno siya sakin
sa Chem 18"

Sabi ng Prof ko dahil may kaklase akong recite ng recite w/o raising
her hand "I think this is the first time i have a student w/ tourette
in my class..." Recite parin ng recite yung student "Wow the
ejaculatory comments just don't> stop!"

from my socsci1 prof last sem: "Birds of the same feather FLOCK
together...don' t forget the L".

"I'll strangle you, strangle you really hard, smack right in your
jugular (pause ng mga 5 seconds), you do> know where your jugular is?"

"Be ready with your speech because I am going to lambaste you!"
-namutla nalang yung classmate kong freshie after hearing sir navera
sa spcm 1 namin

'bakit parang napakaligaya ng klase niyo? maging sad naman kayo, 5
mins.' - prof ko sa math 100.

"well of course when you sell your soul you have to make an elaborate
justification to make yourself feel> good." -Sir Walden Bello, Socio
127,

this sem grabe ang galing ni sir bello. nakakaamaze.
"ano bang natapos mo? italian 8?"

"punyetissima! " (sosyal pati mura italian!)

"look at me i'm 433 years old pero ang lakas lakas ko pa. eh kung
walang gulay eh di kakain na lang ako ng damo. kung wala eh di tubig,
kung wala mag-ipon na lang ako ng laway." > -Sir Tiamson, Italian 11,
this sem > > > When you graduate, then you begin to live. > -Dr.
Carmen Jimenez, Psych 118

from Prof Soresca in my spanish 1 class
Prof:"Mr. Gatbunton, why are you late?!"
Student:"Sorry Mam, galing pa ako Las Pinas."
Prof: "Ladies, don't marry somebody from Las Pinas because they have
bamboo organs!!"

"there are only two countries who still use Fahrenheit.. the United
States of America and Liberia... a pathetic country in africa"--Sir
Argete

Marx is more Christian than Christ and Christ is more Marxist than
Marx. - Sir Lanuza.

May kaklase ako, may jowang taga Ateneo
"Ateneo? How could you love someone from the Ateneo?"

sa geol11, ayaw mag-recite ng mga classmates ko..
sabi ni ma'am cathy "wag na mahiya, you have nothing to lose but your face.."

si sir agapito..habang 2nd exam at malakas ang ulan..
"ang lakas ng ulan, ayos yan at least hindi halata pag umiiyak.."

Class: Sir, sa exams po ba nagbibigay kayo ng partial points?
Prof: Hmm, if I see partial wisdom.

"It's okay to smoke inside my class. As long as you don't breathe it
out." -Dr. Obsioma, Biodiversity

"Oh, this is good. It's poetic because it's perfectly stupid." - Ricardo de
Ungria last week on my classmate's work.

Prof: Did I remind the class last meeting that we're going to have an
exam today? Class: (dead air)
Prof: Ok, it seems I forgot to remind the class that we're going to
have an exam today. I'm giving you five minutes then to buy a
bluebook. We're going to have an exam today.

sir tiamson (span 11) > "ayan, di ka makasagot. yung bakal sa ngipin
mo naapektuhan na yung pagsasalita mo"

iskolar ng bayan....wala tayong laban sa mga hirit na ganito.

I have a tale to tell
Sometimes it gets so hard to hide it well
I was not ready for the fall
Too blind to see the writing on the wall

A man can tell a thousand lies
I've learned my lesson well
Hope I live to tell
The secret I have learned, 'till then
It will burn inside of me

I know where beauty lives
I've seen it once, I know the warmth she gives
The light that you could never see
It shines inside, you can't take that from me


The truth is never far behind
You kept it hidden well
If I live to tell
The secret I knew then
Will I ever have the chance again

If I ran away, I'd never have the strength
To go very far
How would they hear the beating of my heart
Will it grow cold
The secret that I hide, will I grow old
How will they hear
When will they learn
How will they know

Re-post from my friend Iggy.....I'm like so finding this nakaka-funny, It's so kakatawa eh...you know? Di ba? Super LMAO.

1.  Thou shall make gamit "make+pandiwa".
ex. "Let's make pasok na to our class!"
      "Wait lang! I'm making kain pa!"
      "Come on na, we can't make hintay anymore! It's in Andrew pa, you know?"

2. Thou shall make kalat "noh", "diba" and "eh" in your pangungusap.
ex. "I don't like to make lakad in the baha nga, no? Eh diba it's like, so eew, diba?"
      "What ba: stop nga being maarte noh?"
      "Eh as if you want naman also, diba?"

3. When making describe a whatever, always say "It's SO" pang-uri!
ex. "It's so malaki, you know, and so mainit!"
      "I know right? So sarap nga, eh!"
      "You're making me inggit naman.. I'll make bili nga my own burger."

4. When you are lalaki, make parang punctuation "dude", 'tsong" or "pare"
ex. "Dude, ENGANAL is so hirap, pare."
      "I know, tsong, I got bagsak nga in quiz one, eh"

5. Thou shall know you know? I know right!
ex. "My bag is so bigat today, you know"
      "I know, right! We have to make dala pa kasi the jumbo Physics book eh!"

6. Make gawa the plural of pangngalans like in English or Spanish.
ex. "I have so many tigyawats, oh!"

7. Like, when you can make kaya, always use like. Like, I know right?
ex. "Like, it's so init naman!"
      "Yah! The aircon, it's, like sira!"

8. Make yourself feel so galing by translating the last word of your sentence, you know, your pangungusap?
ex. "Kakainis naman in the LRT! How plenty tao, you know, people?"
      "It's so tight nga there, eh, you know, masikip?"

9. Make gamit of plenty abbreviations, you know, daglat?"
ex. "Like, OMG! It's like traffic sa LRT"
      "I know right? It's so kaka!"
      "Kaka?"
      "Kakaasar!"

10. Make gamit the pinakamaarte voice and pronunciation you have para full effect!
ex. "I'm, like, making aral at the Arrhneo!"
      "Me naman, I'm from Lazzahl!



Conyomandment 11. Thou shalt forward to all your conyo friends.

Does this apply to the peeps in CVG/CMW?? he he he

Half the year has passed and what have I got to show for it? Nothing the eye could see I suppose. I suddenly feel like a hamster running round and round his wheel inside a cage. All that effort and I'm still stuck  at the same spot. Whew.

Well, something Anatole France said caught my eye....

"All changes, even the most longed for, have their melancholy; for what we leave behind us is a part of ourselves. We must die to one life before we can enter another."

Good thing I'm a Leo and since cats supposedly have 9 lives, how many times do I need to "die" before I can be what God intended me to be?

Yeah, yeah I think too much.....been a long time since I blogged something off the top of my head.  Am I being melancholic now? Who knows? More importantly, who cares?

still alive...still me....older though and hopefully wiser.....thanks to everyone who made my life interesting.....you know who you are.....would not have it any other way..... ;-)

I believe I can see the future
Cause I repeat the same routine
I think I used to have a purpose
But then again
That might have been a dream
I think I used to have a voice
Now I never make a sound
I just do what I've been told
I really don't want them to come around
Oh, no


Every day is exactly the same
Every day is exactly the same
There is no love here and there is no pain
Every day is exactly the same

I can feel their eyes are watching
In case I lose myself again
Sometimes I think I'm happy here
Sometimes, yet I still pretend
I can't remember how this got started
But I can tell you exactly how it will end

I'm writing on a little piece of paper
I'm hoping someday you might find
Well I'll hide it behind something
They won't look behind
I'm still inside here
A little bit comes bleeding through
I wish this could have been any other way
But I just don't know, I don't know what else I can do

LMAO! Thanks Manix.

Worst analogies ever written in a high school essay

* He spoke with the wisdom that can only come from experience, like a guy who

went blind because he looked at a solar eclipse without one of those boxes with a

pinhole in it and now goes around the country speaking at high schools about the

dangers of looking at a solar eclipse without one of those boxes with a pinhole in

it.

Joseph Romm, Washington

* She caught your eye like one of those pointy hook latches that used to dangle from screen doors and would fly up whenever you banged the door open again.

Rich Murphy, Fairfax Station

* The little boat gently drifted across the pond exactly the way a bowling ball wouldn't.

Russell Beland, Springfield

* McBride fell 12 stories, hitting the pavement like a Hefty Bag filled with vegetable soup.

Paul Sabourin, Silver Spring

* From the attic came an unearthly howl. The whole scene had an eerie, surreal quality, like when you're on vacation in another city and "Jeopardy" comes on at 7 p.m. instead of 7:30.

Roy Ashley, Washington

* Her hair glistened in the rain like nose hair after a sneeze.

Chuck Smith, Woodbridge

* Her eyes were like two brown circles with big black dots in the center.

Russell Beland, Springfield

* Bob was as perplexed as a hacker who means to access

T:flw.quid55328.com\aaakk/ch@ung but gets T:\flw.quidaaakk/ch@ung by mistake

Ken Krattenmaker, Landover Hills

* Her vocabulary was as bad as, like, whatever.

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* He was as tall as a six-foot-three-inch tree.

Jack Bross, Chevy Chase

* The hailstones leaped from the pavement, just like maggots when you fry them in hot grease.

Gary F. Hevel, Silver Spring

* Her date was pleasant enough, but she knew that if her life was a movie this guy would be buried in the credits as something like "Second Tall Man."

Russell Beland, Springfield

* Long separated by cruel fate, the star-crossed lovers raced across the grassy field toward each other like two freight trains, one having left Cleveland at 6:36 p.m. traveling at 55 mph, the other from Topeka at 4:19 p.m. at a speed of 35 mph.

Jennifer Hart, Arlington

* The politician was gone but unnoticed, like the period after the Dr. on a Dr Pepper can.

Wayne Goode, Madison, Ala.

* They lived in a typical suburban neighborhood with picket fences that resembled Nancy Kerrigan's teeth

Paul Kocak, Syracuse, N.Y.

* John and Mary had never met. They were like two hummingbirds who had also never met.

Russell Beland, Springfield

* The thunder was ominous-sounding, much like the sound of a thin sheet of metal being shaken backstage during the storm scene in a play.

Barbara Fetherolf, Alexandria

* His thoughts tumbled in his head, making and breaking alliances like underpants in a dryer without Cling Free

Chuck Smith, Woodbridge

* The red brick wall was the color of a brick-red Crayola crayon.

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Based on an unoriginal article in the Washington Post

As soon as I've read this, my resolve to fix my life got stronger.

Snippets from JK Rowling's Commencement Address to the graduating class of Harvard 2008 titled  "The Fringe Benefits of Failure, and the Importance of Imagination"

... You might be driven by a fear of failure quite as much as a desire for success. Indeed, your conception of failure might not be too far from the average person’s idea of success, so high have you already flown academically.

...Ultimately, we all have to decide for ourselves what constitutes failure, but the world is quite eager to give you a set of criteria if you let it.

...I stopped pretending to myself that I was anything other than what I was, and began to direct all my energy into finishing the only work that mattered to me. Had I really succeeded at anything else, I might never have found the determination to succeed in the one arena I believed I truly belonged. I was set free, because my greatest fear had already been realised, and I was still alive....

...Failure gave me an inner security that I had never attained by passing examinations. Failure taught me things about myself that I could have learned no other way. I discovered that I had a strong will, and more discipline than I had suspected; I also found out that I had friends whose value was truly above rubies.

...The knowledge that you have emerged wiser and stronger from setbacks means that you are, ever after, secure in your ability to survive. You will never truly know yourself, or the strength of your relationships, until both have been tested by adversity. Such knowledge is a true gift, for all that it is painfully won, and it has been worth more to me than any qualification I ever earned.

...Imagination is not only the uniquely human capacity to envision that which is not, and therefore the fount of all invention and innovation. In its arguably most transformative and revelatory capacity, it is the power that enables us to empathise with humans whose experiences we have never shared.

...And many prefer not to exercise their imaginations at all. They choose to remain comfortably within the bounds of their own experience, never troubling to wonder how it would feel to have been born other than they are. They can refuse to hear screams or to peer inside cages; they can close their minds and hearts to any suffering that does not touch them personally; they can refuse to know.

...If you choose to use your status and influence to raise your voice on behalf of those who have no voice; if you choose to identify not only with the powerful, but with the powerless; if you retain the ability to imagine yourself into the lives of those who do not have your advantages, then it will not only be your proud families who celebrate your existence, but thousands and millions of people whose reality you have helped transform for the better. We do not need magic to change the world, we carry all the power we need inside ourselves already: we have the power to imagine better.....

These are the words that I try to live by : "Better to fail at something than excel at doing nothing."

 

                
" Sometimes, you just have to pretend that you're happy just to stop everyone from asking you what the hell happened."

"By d tym u fall in luv, it changes ur life 4ever and no matter hw u try, d feeling nvr goes awy! "


"If u love some1, u say it right then out loud or d moment jst passess u by."

"Wen u fnd dat prsn u wnt to spend d rest of ur lyf wid, u want d rest of ur lfy 2 bgin ryt awy."

"If 2 people r meant 4 each other, it doesn't mean dat they're meant for each other NOW..."

Disclaimer: This is posted the way she texted them to me.

P.S. Free, I don't think maiming someone is the best way to make me smile. Thanks for the offer though.

I'm only pretty sure that I can't take anymore
Before you take a swing
I wonder what are we fighting for
When I say out loud
I want to get out of this
I wonder is there anything
I'm going to miss
I wonder how it's going to be
When you don't know me
How's it going to be
When you're sure I'm not there
How's it going to be
When there's no one there to talk to
Between you and me
Cause I don't care
How's it going to be
How's it going to be
Where we used to laugh
There's a shouting match
Sharp as a thumbnail scratch
A silence I can't ignore
Like the hammock by the
Doorway we spent time in swings empty
Don't see lightning like last fall
When it was always about to hit me
I wonder how's it going to be
When it goes down
How's it going to be
When you're not around
How's it going to be
When you found out there was nothing
Between you and me
Cause I don't care
How's it going to be
And how's it going to be
When you don't know me anymore
And how's it going to be
Want to get myself back in again
The soft dive of oblivion
I want to taste the salt of your skin
The soft dive of oblivion oblivion
How's it going to be
When you don't know me anymore
How's it going to be
How's it going to be
How's it going to be